Becoming – A Study on the Proverbs 31 Woman

Becoming - A Study on the Proverbs 31 Woman


The Proverbs 31 woman is such an amazing woman. She is successful, she is honored, and she has the purest intentions. But what’s her secret? It’s not her beautiful glossy hair or her perfectly manicured nails. It’s not her picture perfect home or her extravagant hospitality skills. And it’s not her amazing singing voice or her entertaining sense of humor. In fact, none of those things are even mentioned in the chapter at all. 

Her secret is mentioned at the end of the chapter (v. 30). And guess what. It’s not a secret at all! It’s clearly stated so everyone will know that it’s possible to achieve excellence like she does. Why would God give us such a great role model and not tell us how to achieve what she did? Unfortunately, sometimes while I read the Bible, I completely miss the whole point because I am distracted by all the things she does that I am not doing.

Ever since I started my blog, my intention was not only to be encouraging, informative, and entertaining. It was also to be completely honest. So, I’m going to be completely honest right now.

I honestly used to dislike reading about the Proverbs 31 woman.

No, I didn’t hate reading the Bible. I actually read that particular chapter quite often during my teen years. I just didn’t like reading it because it convicted me. I read all of these things that she was motivated to do and I felt as though I was a failure or incapable of doing great things for God because I wasn’t exactly like the virtuous woman. I used to believe that she was considered virtuous because of all the things she did – which is partially true. You do need to actually do things to serve God. But she took the most important step first to accomplish what she did. And so many times I find myself completely missing the point of serving God because I try to do things in my own strength. Unfortunately, doing things in my own sorry excuse for strength will only lead to being burned out and discouraged. 

Somewhere in this woman’s life, she learned the key to living the Christian life. It’s not loving other people, although that is a good thing to do. It’s not being humble, even though that is a great attitude to have. Before you keep reading, I want you to go get your Bible, find Proverbs 31:30, and see if you can figure out what the “secret” to her success is. Then you can come back and see what the answer is.

Did you read the verse? Of course not, because you know I am going to tell you what it is anyway (you heathen…just kidding. I would have done exactly the same thing!). The secret to her living a virtuous life is that she feared God. If you don’t fear God or have the proper reverence for Him, why would you need to do anything of value. If you aren’t trying to please God with your life, aren’t you just living it for yourself? Sure, you could say that you are kind to others, you take care of your family, and you pray on a daily basis for the good of other people.

But if you’re not doing those things to please God, who are you doing them for?

When I finally decided to study Proverbs 31 without anticipating being discouraged, I realized that I had been wrong the whole time. Such a shocker, right? I used to believe that only certain people, really good women that could do everything that she did, were the only ones who could be considered virtuous. But I soon realized that the only reason she was able to do all that she did was that she feared God first. And guess what, my dear friends. Fearing God is something every Christian can do! It just starts with a choice to fear Him.

So are you ready to dive in to this incredibly life changing chapter with me? This series is personally more for me than it is for you all (selfish, I know), but how can I keep the life altering Word of God to myself when it is doing such amazing things for me? I just can’t keep it to myself. When the Holy Spirit is leading, you had better listen to Him because you might miss out on incredible blessings. That’s just a side note, and you got it for free!

This series is going to include some pretty exciting things! Here are just a few features I will be sharing with you every week:

  • New Bible studies from this chapter at least once a week
  • Thought provoking questions with every post to use for your own study
  • Weekly Twitter chats to share your thoughts and share encouragement with other readers
  • …and more!

So, if you are ready to start becoming the woman God intended you to be, we can start on this journey together.

It doesn’t matter if you are 19 or 90, with God’s help and His Word we can grow and learn to become godly women together!